You look around and all you see is the people around you getting married, having kids, posting about their wicked vacation their on or how in love they are. It’s all around us… Especially at this age.
I’m 25 and parts of me feels like I’ve fallen behind on some track of life.
But then you look forward and you see divorce, child custody battles, married couples who can’t stand one another but still fake it on their social media. The lists go on, I’m sure you already have some in your head.
So you sit and contemplate, do you join society in getting a dating app and swiping for attraction and find something that may or may not be right but fill a void of feeling alone for now? Or do you stick to your own path, be the lone wolf because deep down you want something real, something better for yourself.
You’ve waited this long, you’ve probably been in at least one or a couple serious relationships by now, you have a pretty good idea of what you want to feel when you meet the one for you.
Here’s a way to stay true to yourself, with clarity:
Step 1- Decide exactly how YOU want to live your life, how you want it to turn out, for only you, do not factor in anyone else, just you. (Unless of course you have a child to think about which of course that needs to be considered into your plans now.)
Step 2- Write it down. Write exactly how it feels, what you hear, what you see, what you smell, what you taste. The words you hear, the people you have around you, your dream partner, how he/she treats you. Write it in present tense as If you already have it.
Step 3- Before making ANY decisions moving forward, as yourself, “Will this get me closer to the life I want to live, or further from it?” Think of how your decisions will affect that future rather than your immediate satisfactions.
Now, be aware the path that you have the least resistance to, will in most cases take you further from you end goal than the choice that seems more difficult. “But an easy trek in the wrong direction is ultimately far more exhausting and devastating than an uphill climb toward euphoria.”
It is your life, you are the one who is carrying yourself through it, you are the one making the choices. You have gotten yourself here, now where do you want to go?
Make choices that honour you. Do not look around you to seek validation from what others are doing, they are on their own path, and often you will find they are learning and make mistakes to. People may seem like they know all the answers and try to give you their opinions, you may want to take that opinion, but remember, this is your life.
If you do not honour yourself, what is all this for? You are here for a reason. When you live out your true potential, you inspire others to do the same.
Some material from one of my favourite books–> Buddhist Boot Camp, By Timber Hawkeye (A MUST read!!)